Talking to Your Partner, Family, and Friends About Your Pregnancy News

Seeing two lines on a pregnancy test is emotional. And if that pregnancy is unexpected, the thought of talking to your family about your pregnancy news can be intimidating. By thoughtfully preparing, you can manage these conversations in a way that respects your own needs and those of the people you’re sharing your news with.

Take a minute.

It’s okay to feel upset or overwhelmed, especially if you think you will deal with mixed reactions. Slow down, take a deep breath, and let yourself process this new information.

Get the answers you need to make the best choices for yourself.

At Clarity, we want to give you the information you need to feel educated about your pregnancy options. For example, you can learn how far along you are in your pregnancy and if your pregnancy is viable from a free ultrasound with us. Learn more. This will help you feel more confident as you talk to your family about your pregnancy news

Plan ahead.

Think about how you want to share this news with each person you want to tell. Would they take news best in a text? In a card? With a phone call? Sitting face-to-face? It can also be helpful to think ahead about a good time and place, such as a private and quiet setting.

Create boundaries.

Remember that you have control over who you tell and the information you share. It’s okay if you aren’t ready to discuss all aspects of your news. If you want to, decide in advance if you want to share regular updates or if you prefer to share major milestones only.

Set clear intentions for the conversation.

Be sure to explain why you’re sharing the news and what you hope to achieve from telling them (e.g., seeking support, just informing them, etc.).

Identify your support system.

Surround yourself with positive influences and people who uplift and support you. If you don’t feel like you have a support system, Clarity can help. We offer mentoring as well as practical resources to help you make informed decisions and be safe.

Consider your safety.

If you’re concerned about your physical safety or emotional well-being after letting your partner know about your pregnancy, don’t hesitate to seek help. For support with potentially abusive or manipulative situations, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text “START” to 88788. Reaching out is crucial for your safety and recovery.

Be prepared for practical discussions.

Be prepared for practical discussions about your pregnancy plan to reassure the people you tell that you have considered what’s best for you and made informed choices.

the thought of talking to your family about your pregnancy news can be overwhelming, but by prioritizing your own emotional well-being, planning your approach thoughtfully, and setting clear boundaries, you can manage these conversations in a way that feels right for you. Taking it one step at a time and balancing your own needs with those of others will help you navigate this with greater ease and confidence. Regardless of how your support system handles this news, Clarity is behind you with all the resources and support you need. You got this!