At Clarity, we serve clients daily whose relationships range from very healthy to abusive and everything in between. While we are not relationship experts, we have learned a thing or two along the way.

You’re on the same page | See yourself married in a few years? Make sure they do too. You want to take things slow but they seem eager to get more serious? Talk about it sooner rather than later.

You two can fight productively | Disagreements can be good thing as long as the conversation ends in a different place than it started. If you find yourselves having the same arguments over and over, that is an issue.

Your partner is mature | Does your partner embrace responsibility, make an effort with your friends/family, and compromise happily?

Never single | Are you jumping from one relationship to the next? Constantly talking to someone? Maybe it’s time to reevaluate what you want out of a relationship.

You don’t date | If you have been messaging, texting, whatever, for over a month and haven’t been on an actual date, red flag. It’s not about a candlelight dinner, it’s about being intentional to care about someone- not at midnight and not over an app- in real, actual life.

They are selfish | If they are never wrong or are never willing to inconvenience themselves, that is selfishness (and not easily “fixed”).

Codependency | It’s an issue if confronting your significant other about an issue or breaking things off rocks his or her entire world. No matter how great you are, you can’t be the sole source of someone’s stability.

And if your partner is abusive in any way, step away immediately. Tell someone you trust, report violence, make a safety plan.

Stop and think about what is really important to you in a relationship and ask yourself if that is happening. If not, don’t be afraid to go it alone. Stable, healthy relationships with romance and excitement can happen. They are worth working toward and waiting for ️

If you are in an unhealthy relationship and wondering about your pregnancy options, schedule a confidential appointment with us today.