Well everybody’s doing it, right???
Sex…are you having it? Are you thinking about having sex? I hear from a lot of girls who come into Clarity that “everyone is having sex” so why shouldn’t I? And let’s be honest, I get it. We want to fit in, to be accepted, and usually that means doing what your friends are doing. I can’t tell you how many times when I was younger I absolutely hated the new clothing style of the season, but still bought and wore it because I wanted to fit in. I could write for pages about the importance of figuring out who YOU are, what YOU like, and being YOU. The good thing is though, that hairstyle, clothing, music, activities…most of those don’t impact us for the rest of our lives. But sex, things we do with our bodies, pieces of ourselves we give to another human being, that can impact us forever.
We frequently hear the terms “safe sex” or “protected sex,” and while this sounds good, sex is more than a physical act, and we need to consider the emotional aspects as well.Condoms, when used correctly (see condom blog here) can prevent STI’s and unwanted pregnancy, but they can’t prevent the long term emotional side effects of sex. During sex we have a deep emotional connection with another human being, and we can experience many so different emotions: pleasure, happiness, excitement, relief, desire, satisfaction and love just to name a few. Sex is one of the deepest connections you will ever have with another human being. We have to be sure we aren’t making such a big decision just because we think everyone else is doing it.
While we may be thinking that everyone is sexually active, there are several recent studies that say that’s simply not true. The Washington Post mentions a study from the Journal Archives of Sexual Behavior that finds “that younger millennials — born in the 1990s — are more than twice as likely to be sexually inactive in their early 20s as the previous generation was.” The Post goes on to highlight a report from the CDC that says multiple studies suggest that the percentage of sexually active high school youth is dropping.
Reading that, and looking at the graph, you can see that sexual activity in teens and young adults is dropping. People just like you are choosing to wait before making such a big and life impacting decision.
If you would like to talk to someone about this, or if you have questions, give us a call. We would love to sit down with you and talk about this important decision. We are here for you and want to encourage you to make STRONG choices in all areas of your life.
– Allison, Clarity Solutions Nurse Manager